Men Decoded The Secrets To Men's Heart and Soul Revealed

I often hear from women who want to believe that if they can just make a reluctant man happy and in love, then marriage or a proposal will automatically follow. And this does sometimes happen without much fanfare. Sometimes though, these women know that they are dealing with a man who is very reluctant to commit. For these type of men, happiness and love are sometimes not enough to automatically bring marriage or a proposal into the picture.

I heard from a woman who said: “I have met a man with whom I am deeply in love. However, he told me by the third date that he wasn’t looking to settle down and get married. So I guess it is fair to say that he laid his cards on the table right from the start. However, from talking to his friends, I know that he has never been serious about anyone in the past. So it makes sense to me that if I can make him very happy and I can make him fall in love me, then he will eventually want to marry me. Does this make sense?”

Although it does make sense, things do not always follow a logical pattern with a man like this. I will tell you why in the following article.

A Man Who Has Already Told You That He’s Reluctant To Commit Or Marry Might Resent (And Resist) Your Manipulation: First of all, many of the women who write about this topic ask about ways to “make” him happy, to “make” him fall in love, and to “make” him get married. All of this implies a little bit of manipulation and I have to tell you that men who are openly reluctant to commit are especially sensitive to any type of manipulation. In other words, the more you want to make him do anything, the less likely he is going to be to comply. And his motivation isn’t that he doesn’t love you. It’s simply to be stubborn so that you can’t manipulate him.

So, it is often very helpful in order to get the “make him” mentality out of your mind. Because it’s likely to do you more harm than good. If you want to think of it in new terms, think of it in encouraging him.

Any Plan Is More Likely To Work When You Allow For Things To Happen Naturally: Many women assume that their attempts to pull the relationship along are going to be missed by the man involved, but they are often wrong about this. In fact, men who are reluctant to commit often have almost eagle eyes with regard to any attempt to manufacture or lead the relationship. You are far better off just being genuine and allowing things to happen naturally. After all, if this is really the right man for you, then you shouldn’t have to trick, manipulate, or do anything other than enjoy the process. Resist any urge to influence the outcome artificially. Just allow for things to unfold as they will. By doing so, you are making it more likely that he will genuinely fall in love with you so that it will actually last.

For Some Men, Love, Happiness And Marriage Don’t Always Go Together Without Some Encouragement And Reassurance: As I said before, many men automatically follow this path. But sometimes, this is not true of men who are reluctant to commit. So while those types of men can be both in love and happy, this is not always enough to get him to walk down the aisle. For some men, you will almost have to methodically overcome their objections and individual hang ups as they relate to marriage. Now, you have to do this very gradually and genuinely because, as we have established, this type of men are extremely sensitive to manipulation.

In fact, if they get wind that you have this sort of plan, then they will go out of their way to make sure that your plan fails. People often ask me why these men are even worth it. What they mean is if it is much work and so much coaxing to get these men to marry the women who love them, why even bother? My answer to this is that it can be more than worth it. There are many happily married couples right now with a husband who used to be a man who was reluctant to get married. But he was lucky enough to have a patient woman who didn’t give up and who methodically overcame his concerns or objections.

So to answer the question posed, some men will want to marry you when they love you and when you make them happy. But others will require a little additional effort. Continue to make sure that your relationship is a healthy and happy one. Because if you can make him believe that you aren’t trying to limit him, and if you can convince him that having you in his life makes his life so good that he wouldn’t ever want to be without you, then you will likely eventually get your commitment. They key is to make him want to very willingly commit and to make it seem like it was his idea.

One important bit of advice in this guide to romance is to have a good understanding of what romance truly is. Romance has important characteristics and you should be well versed of these so that you will not be lost in the process. You might be expecting that you are doing something romantic only to find out that it is taken as an ordinary gesture. Therefore, take note of the following definitions:

Give cute things – they are romantic. The cutest things are those that are not purchased, but those that you made yourself. It can be a candle or a greeting card. Whatever it is, make sure to give it a personal touch.

Do things in low light – they are effective in efforts to spice up your sex life. It adds a dash of mystery into the air. It nurtures the senses because you are taking away a significant portion of capability from your eyes. Therefore, your sense of touch, hearing, and smelling becomes more alert than usual. This also magnifies the feeling of loving.

Make it appear impractical. Impractical things are actually the most romantic things there is. If it appears to be like out of the way or out of the budget or logistically impossible, but you are able to successfully pull it off just for your loved one, then it will be much appreciated. However, do not dwell much on it during your conversations. Allow her to appreciate it on her own because if you will feed the idea that it is quite ‘impractical’ for you, but you were able to do it, and then you might appear to be whining. And that is not at all romantic.

Follow the “red theme.” That’s the color of the heart and of Valentine’s. Wrapping your gift with red will make it appear more romantic. But remember not to overdo it. Trimmings of red or making it your points of emphasis is more than enough. And remember, more than the color of your gift, it is the thought that counts!

Ordinary house dinner becomes more romantic with the appropriate background music. Tap as many senses as possible. By integrating music into your background, you will see how things will change with just a few adjustments. The mood will suddenly become more romantic and your topics will focus more on the two of you and your future together.

Give a significant portion of your time. Giving your time actually is the best evidence that you love your partner. Even if you have to go out of your way just to be with him or her and spend your spare time. Your partner will surely value it.

Do not forget anniversaries and birth dates. Of course, it might help if you will remember when your first date was, what she was wearing, and what music was playing in the background. These details, according to the guide to romance, are pieces of evidence that show how much you love your loved one.

Sometimes relationships progress well on their own. A couple may naturally just make all the right decisions and “luck into” having everything move along smoothly with few road bumps.

Other relationships aren’t so lucky. In my experience I would estimate that most aren’t.

Unfortunately, “Love” isn’t enough. Even if both partners love each other dearly, there are other aspects to a relationship which can cause the progression of a relationship to slow down and possibly even stop.

If your relationship isn’t moving along nicely, if your man isn’t advancing the relationship at the desired pace and you’re worried about staying in a committed relationship, it’s time to take action and turn things around.

T. Dub Jackson has stated that most relationships that fail, probably didn’t have to. If one or both partners knew more about the mechanics of relationships, it could likely have been salvaged.

So if you’re in a committed relationship, even if you aren’t certain about it’s current stability, you can likely do a lot to not only turn it into a stable and committed relationship, but progress it towards marriage.

All on his own accord and without you being pushy or playing “hard to get”.

Every man views himself in two separate ways.

The first way is as he sees himself, through his own eyes.

The second way is how he perceives that others see him. This includes how YOU see him.

This second view is called the Masculine Hero Avatar Principle (MHAP). This is he image he feels he MUST project because of his upbringing and social programming. Without understanding this, you’ll be forever lost in trying to understand men.

On the other hand, having this knowledge will allow you to understand a man’s weird behavior, why men lie, why men pull away even when things seem to be going so well and how to turn it all around so he WANTS to fully commit to you and take your relationship to the next level.

The first principle of MHAP is that a man truly wants to be loved for the REAL HIM. This brings to light one of the “Invisible Man Traps” that many women stumble into.

For example, during the first few dates, a man is likely to embellish the truth a bit in order to paint himself in the best light possible. He may take you to expensive restaurants and buy you gifts.

If you continue accepting the gifts and joining him for expensive dinners, he may soon begin to feel that you only like him for his money! Crazy right?

Just make a BIG DEAL that you would he happy to go out to dinner with him regardless of what restaurant, as long as it is with him. If he gives you gifts (especially if you suspect he’s stretching his budget), let him know that he already has your attention without all the gifts.

That is one of the Invisible Man Traps (which he doesn’t even realize he has set!) and the first of four MHAP principles. It is vital to understand each principle and know how to spot the Invisible Man Traps if you want to avoid relationship problems, stay in a committed relationship and progress it towards marriage.

If a guy has stopped moving the relationship forward, or it’s progressing slowly, there are several things you can do to help move it along. You don’t want to be pushy or manipulative or play “hard to get” etc as that won’t help the relationship. In fact, it may even slow things down.

A guy has three “speeds” in advancing the relationship. T. Dub Jackson refers to this as a man’s “Traffic Light” or “Heart light”. It has nothing to do with how much he loves you. Love isn’t all you need to get the relationship to advance faster, you need that traffic light to glow green.

Green: Your man feels compelled to move the relationship forward. It’s his idea and desire and has nothing to do with ultimatums or other such nonsense.

Yellow: This means his forward progress is being slowed down. He feels something might “be wrong” and isn’t as compelled to take things to the next level.

Red: Stop! This is when a guy feels like something definitely IS wrong and he will NOT move the relationship forward.

Again, none of these have anything to do with how much he loves you. He could be head-over-heels in love with you but have a Red light.

In order to get your man to advance the relationship faster, there are several things you can DO as well as some things to AVOID. Here’s one great example.

Most men have multiple “Invisible Man Traps” that you can inadvertently run into. Of course, that will turn his traffic light to Yellow and slow things down. He doesn’t even know he’s setting them (invisible), so you need to know how to spot them.

One prime example of an Invisible Man Trap is when you first meet. He’ll want to paint himself in the best possible light, possibly embellishing the truth a bit. For example he may flaunt his income a bit by taking you to expensive restaurants, buying gifts etc, which might actually be a bit out of his budget. If you continue to accept gifts and have expensive dinners, he may start to get the idea that you’re only into him for his money! Crazy, right?

So what do you do? Go ahead and have a nice dinner and accept his gifts. But be sure to make a BIG DEAL that he could take you to ANY restaurant as long as he’s with you. Let him know that he already has your attention WITHOUT all the gifts.

After you go on a few dates, just offering to pay for dinner or for whatever activity you’re doing can also go a long way in this regard (even if he doesn’t accept your offer to pay).

You need to be HYPER AWARE of these Invisible Man Traps so you don’t accidentally slow the relationship down.

Other than avoiding potential relationship problems, there are also some really cool things you can do (non-manipulative or pushy) that can get your man to advance the relationship quicker. You can find out more in the video that you can access through the link on the right

So you’ve found “the one.” You’re utterly in love… You can’t picture your life without him… and you want to take the relationship to the next level! The only problem is… you’re left wondering how to get the guy to marry YOU!

So many women find themselves exhausted, frustrated and CONFUSED after desperately trying to figure out what it takes to get a man to marry them. Don’t fret- you’re not alone.

When it comes to getting a guy to marry you, there are few things that EVERY woman must know and do. Look at these “things” as “non-negotiable” – things that you MUST do to even have a chance at getting him to marry you.

1. Talk About Marriage

A few conversations (or even thousands of conversations) about marriage must be had between the two individuals in a relationship before he will even think about proposing to you.

Now there are two ways to go about having “marriage conversations” – and each produces a very different result. You could be one of those women that beg and harass their man about getting married – almost like a child begging for a candy bar in the grocery store. Take note: THIS IS NOT WHAT A HEALTHY CONVERSATION ABOUT MARRIAGE LOOKS LIKE.

Or… You could bring up marriage in a nonchalant manner and really listen to what he thinks and feels about the topic. A great way to bring up getting married is to ask your boyfriend about what he sees in his future. If he responds with an answer that includes marriage, children, etc. – then you’re on the right track. If his answer is something like “Drugs, Sex and Rock and Roll” – it’s time that you reevaluate the state of your relationship!

2. Find Married Friends to Hang Out With

Another way to get a guy to marry you is to surround him with people that are already married. People that you spend a lot of time with have a huge influence on your everyday life, whether you recognize it or not. If you get him to start hanging out with married friends, he will begin to see the “ins and outs” of married life and possibly want that for himself. Hanging out with married couples will also make it easier to casually bring up the marriage topic in conversation.

3. Family Matters

Most men think very highly of their family and if this is the case in your situation, you’ve got to get into to his family in order to get him to marry you!

Now you’re probably wondering, “This seems easy enough… but how do I get in good with the family?” Start by bringing his family up in conversations between the two of you. Make suggestions that involve his family. For example, if he wants to have a BBQ at the house and invite a few friends over – pipe up and say, “Well why don’t we invite your parents as well”!

Building strong relationships with his family members is not a difficult task if you put a decent amount of effort into it. Remember, relationships take time to build and need to be consistent attention. Don’t be his mom’s BFF one day and then fail to return her seven missed calls the next!

Keep these three tips in mind next time you find yourself asking, “How do you get a guy to marry you?” This isn’t a comprehensive list, but one that will make the challenge a whole lot easier.ath to get a man to propose. These tips will absolutely get you going in the right direction!
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I’ve been studying what men have to say about what makes them happy in terms of women. I’ve really listened closely over the years to what they desire in a relationship. This means also listening carefully to marriages that collapsed to learn why they were miserable.

If you are feeling the pressure of time and want to land yourself a long term mate, and have a healthy partnership with children and to grow old together — listen up! this stuff matters.

There is no order of importance here necessarily, but each item listed is really a big deal to guys. Take notes!

1. Faith

I don’t mean religious faith, but rather faith in him. Every guy wants to be the commander of the ship. It’s OK if you’re a strong woman, but if you can’t let him make some big decisions and support his actions, and if he senses this early on — this could be a deal breaker.

You can work together, but nothing is more frustrating for a guy than to have every thought, decision and action constantly questioned.

2. Someone Who Is A Good Conversationalist

This isn’t what you think. Of course what men want in a relationship is someone that they can have wonderful conversations with, but something else more important…

No guy wants a girl who talks constantly, is too loud, or interrupts him. A man feels a sense of having no respect when with a girl who is like this, and when a guy feels respect from his partner — he is very happy, feels safe, feels appreciated and trusted.

Some key words in that last line – memorize them!

3. Someone Who Is Nurturing

If he was raised by a mother who wasn’t that caring for him, then this may not matter, but remember that most men are very close to the person that gave birth to them.

Men usually settle upon a woman who reflects their mother in terms of morals, support, affection, caring, etc.

A guy desires more than anything else to have a woman show love for him through her eyes, kiss him without him invoking it, playfully tease him, and a girl that he feels like she will be his best friend when he needs support.

4. Looks Matter

Again, not what you think. Most guys fall in love with the girl who really loves herself in a healthy manner.

Guys do get tired of women that constantly complain about their weight issues or how they look. This creates stress and makes women seem unattractive. Men ultimately do look for women who are more relaxed like most guys about their presence.

But, it is important that a woman work a little at looking her best when going places, because a guy feels that this is done out of appreciation for him, even if women do it just to look good to everyone.

Every man secretly wants to be proud of who is with. Some have referred to it as “the trophy girl”, but if he really loves you this won’t overshadow a thing. It will just be the cherry on top.

5. Sincerity & Self Confidence

What men want in a relationship is also a woman who is true to herself. Unfortunately, all of those magazine models lead many women to believe that this is what guys want, but that couldn’t be any farther from the truth.

Men don’t want fakeness. They also don’t want a woman who they feel will be a lot of work to be with or take care of.

Nagging is something men despise. If it’s justified, that’s OK…but just being “whiney” as a guy might describe it, all the time, well that’s no good.

Hey! I want you to have a happy relationship and to find the man of your dreams. You can do this!